We live in a society today that is encouraging people to embrace themselves and all that they are, while at the same time still holding on to a general consensus of social acceptability. This is true of everyone, young or old. While this is, of course, wonderful that society is beginning to change and become more inclusive, it’s not necessarily society that is totally to blame. I believe part of the blame is on ourselves and our own thoughts.
I lay no claim to having ever thoroughly studied bible verse, but in passing conversations or church services there is one verse that I remember about this topic.
“For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”” Galatians 5:14
Read it a couple of times, at least twice, and let is really sink in.
Love as you love yourself.
How can we as a society change the views of others when our own views are so flawed? How we judge others begins with our belief of our own shortcomings. If we find ourselves judging or being critical of another person, it may have its root within how we see ourselves. Judgement against ourselves acts as a slow poison. You are not completely aware of when it started or how, but it slowly interferes with the thought process daily. From how you look, to how you sound, act; your intelligence, career, school, clothes, house, sexual orientation, religion, friends. Every judgement you cast negatively against these things slowly chips away their worth to you, until you begin to become convinced this is true for those around you, and until you begin to judge others.
These judgements start at home. By taking ownership of this, we can begin to see ourselves in a favorable light to ourselves, so that we can then share this compassion and lack of judgement with others. Only by taking responsibility of our own minds can we begin to see the trickle of change within our society.
No one can occupy your generosity except you. Who can occupy your patience when impatience roars through you? Who except you can choose not to act with judgment when all of your thoughts are judgmental? Your life is yours to live, no matter how you choose to live it. When you do not think about how you intend to live it, it lives you. -Gary Zukav